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Tuesday, March 20, 2018

Monthly Dose of S.H.A.M.E - March

An area that brings up a lot of shame for many people is perfectionism. It is one of those dreadfully insidious things that can hijack our ability to live, think, do and act in healthy and free ways.

I have embraced the fact that I am a recovering perfectionist. Feel free to join me. I'll probably always be in recovery. But I've seen some huge changes in my life and am very encouraged that this is the direction I want to be heading.

This is a pretty light-hearted look at one of the areas that perfectionism can hijack a lot of time, peace and joy. Writing emails (or texts). 

Join me as we look at how to practice changing our perfectionist habits and the neural ruts in our brains!

S - sharing and speaking
H - helping, not hiding - helping us see how perfectionism weasels its way into daily tasks
A - asking why, asking for help
M - motivating, not mocking - trying to give you a funny "kick-in-the-pants" to encourage you to start to change your habits and thought patterns.
E - evoking hope, not fear

The Art of Writing an Email (for recovering people pleasers and perfectionists):

Chapter 1: Write the email
Chapter 2: I said, just write the email
Chapter 3: Just write the dang email!
Chapter 4: Send the email
Chapter 5: Don’t re-reread it again before sending it
Chapter 6: Push the send button
Chapter 7: Go do something fun
Chapter 8: Why are you still thinking about that email?
Chapter 9: Don’t go back to your computer (or phone)
Chapter 10: Are you having fun yet?
Chapter 11: Seriously? You “went to the bathroom”? Really?  Really?  What if I look on our CCTV?  Oh, you were just checking to see if someone responded to your email?
Chapter 12: Don’t check to see if they have responded.  Just wait.  They will respond.
Chapter 13:  Don’t worry that they haven’t responded yet.  It doesn’t mean that they hate you or that they read your email and are really offended.
Chapter 14: You have a response!
Chapter 15:  Are you overanalyzing the response?  Don’t.
Chapter 16: Don’t respond right away.  Let them breathe.
Chapter 17: Okay, now you can respond.  See Chapter 1.

Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Toilet Tuesdays: Coffeeshops

This week, we bring you Toilet Tuesdays from Brno, Czech Republic.

On a quick stop from here to there, or from there to home, we found ourselves in search of a specialty coffee shop (probably one of our most frequent searches on google maps - specialty coffee near me) and happened upon one called Kafe and Kobliha.  As we drove around looking for a place to park, we saw Dabov Coffee situated right next door.

As unlikely as it can be to find a good quality specialty (or third wave) coffee shop, it seemed quite unlikely that we would find TWO right next to each other.

"Perhaps they're joined together," I suggested.  "Like one side is the coffee and the other is a bakery."

As we approached on foot, we saw that they were in fact two individual shops.  

We had found the Kafe and Kobliha in one of those 7 step processes (the facebook page of one of our favorite coffee shops in Bratislava, promoting a new coffee "the Space" roasted in Brno, looking at the website for "the Space", calling their contact number, being informed that we could find their coffee at Kafe and Kobliha), so we were pretty committed and entered the quirky shop.

Right away we were met with a fusball table, a cheerful barista and two large flamingos painted on the wall.  Two women were in the process of choosing donuts (kobliha in Czech) to go with their coffee.  And we're not talking about your run-of-the-mill donut here.  We're talking hand-crafted, gorgeous, unique flavor combinations.

It took quite a bit of will-power to resist these beauties, but we stuck it out for our premeditated cappuccinos.

It was a wholly satisfying experience, possible downsides being minimal seating and no toilet.

We left with a bag (strike that, box - love their design!) of "the Space" coffee and headed back to our car.

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Coffee roasted in Brno, Europe, Earth

However, as dutifully curious specialty coffee fanatics, we peered through the window of Dabov Coffee next door, examining the various blends and roasts they offered.  As we peered into the window, I noticed the barista watching us and waved.

My husband and I looked at each other and he said "Hmm, coffee for the road?"

"Of course," I replied.

We stepped in to the narrow coffee shop and began to converse with the barista.  They just opened in December, but their coffee brand has been roasting for over 10 years in Sophia, Bulgaria.  

On the right was a narrow bar with stools and on the left the barista bar.  The combined space gave an interesting feel to the tiny space.  Like it was inviting us in to the experience rather than just serving us coffee. Almost as if we were in a friend's (albeit very fancy and coffee-equipped) kitchen.

View from back of shop
Same space; view from front of shop
Barista at work in the "kitchen"

I took advantage of the fact that we were visiting another coffeeshop and asked to use the toilet.  The barista directed me to the back of the shop, where I found a door leading to a tiny room with a sink and enough space to open the door to the tiny room containing the toilet.

Just a toilet

The view from the toilet

If you're in need of a place to sit whilst drinking your coffee and a toilet, Dabov Coffee has a lot to offer. :) And the best part is that you can just meander next door, have another coffee and a donut.  

I'm not really seeing any downsides here. :D